Author: Dan Roberts

White supremacy is a lie. It may be alive and well but it is a lie. And you don’t want to live a lie, especially in the short time you have in your life. Cornel West Everything is made up, but not all of what is made up is good. I’m a white male who…

I failed at something today, something glorious. It wasn’t a failure so much as making an informed decision to abandon something amazing that I had already finished architecting and crafting. For this writing the details don’t even matter, but it had a lot of moving pieces, it was very important to me, and it was…

Compersion is a word that many of you may not know. I had never heard about it before reading up on and learning about polyamory. Before I get into my own thoughts about it, let’s start with two definitions I’ve found: “Compersion is our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It is the sympathetic…

Writing, especially for experience-based blogs or cases where life experiences get shared, draws upon the actual life-lived of the author. This truth also extends to other creative expression like acting, music, and art. If you date or are in the life of an artist, a musician, a TV personality, a comedian, or a writer then…

I was recently asked whether I was polyamorous, whether I was a tourist in that exploration, or whether I was just someone who enjoyed dating around (not that this currently happens much). In the context of the asking, this was an absolutely fair question. It’s good to have context for engaging someone and to understand…

I have done a lot of work on myself in the past twenty years, and especially in the last three. The more recent changes sought to rewire a lot of the foundational tenets of how I viewed relationships, and by extension how I viewed humanity. Moving from a liberal version of monogamy into polyamory has…

Communication is a two-way street. There are people who think a lot and hear things when you talk to them. They hear a lot of things. They hear everything. Sometimes they hear and immediately start processing what they heard. They want to make things better and they dive deeply into the inbound words. They do…

In business, they say that it’s much easier to maintain an existing customer than to gain a new one. I believe this to be true. The customer has already chosen to work with you, presumably with some measure of goodwill. Other businesses are also vying for this customer but the combination of loyalty and inertia…

The majority of posts on my social feeds over the past two weeks have been beautiful, fantastical portraits of my friends that were created by a combination of computer algorithms, after being fed a dozen source images of each friend. These images are beautiful creations (with the occasional atrocity) executed in a variety of styles….

There is little else in this world that both excites and divides than actions and opinions surrounding sexual intimacy. As a socially-awkward white male growing up in small-town white Canada, I developed a strange and foreign fascination with touch and human connection. I was a gifted kid and excelled in school and athletics, but what…