And Nothing, Or Everything, Matters
I was recently one of five participants on a ShareDenver panel about jealousy. It’s something I’ve had to put a lot of work into over the years. The panel was well-received, and here are my notes: Please introduce yourselves to our audience (Name, Pronouns, Your Flavor of Ethical Non-Monogamy, How Long You’ve Been/Practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy,…
Sometimes conversations with my partner make my brain do gymnastics. I try to not “go there” when it’s not merited but sometimes a couple words trip me up, even off the cuff, and I’m down the rabbit hole, often for the better. Here I am, again, examining everything I know about relationships. I’m writing this…
“Intimacy in a relationship is a feeling of being close, and emotionally connected and supported. It means being able to share a whole range of thoughts, feelings, and experiences that we have as human beings.” “Love is an emotional response that involves feeling passionate about someone. Intimacy is a physical and emotional connection that you…
My eyes disconnected, I’m curled up in a fuzzy blanket. My mind walked a landscape that danced on the edge of our definition of physics. At some point feel like I literally got pulled into some sort of junction that had a foothold in at least one additional spatial dimension, and one additional time dimension….
A few years ago, I drove to Mt. St Helens on the Oregon/Washington border to meet up with some friends for an art photography weekend. Driving from Denver, Google Maps showed a couple of different routes. The shortest one went up the near side of the mountain, and the other wrapped around the south side,…
What an intense last few years it has been! From getting married to having my world immediately turned upside down, during a global pandemic, by having to rewire decades of learning as I stepped into polyamory. Poly always made sense in my head… for other people. It wasn’t for me until it was, and I…
I have always pushed myself to be my best. I’ve pushed myself for ‘me’, I’ve done it because it’s the way that I know how to be, but I’ve also done it for my parents and my family. I want to make the people in my life proud of what I’ve done, and who I…
I like the idea of having a ride-or-die partner. I also like the idea of both of us being independent humans, having independent interests and independent connections with other humans. I like the idea of building a life with a partner, owning a house, building a home, sharing finances, traveling the world together, being part…
This weekend I came close to damaging something that really matters to me. It was not a good feeling. Let’s start with the outcome: I currently believe it was not irreparably damaged. I lead with that because I want to instead to focus on other factors, both in my writing and as this is read…
The only thing I control is myself. Sometimes I feel like I don’t even control that, but the sphere of my direct influence of control is limited to me, myself. I can work to shape my thoughts. And after I shape those thoughts I can work to integrate the things I expose myself to, or…